Relationship research & Advice…..
After talking with many couples for research and curiosity. The hardest thing they have to overcome is the first admission of feelings. After that it continues to take great courage to trust another person with those feelings. But it doesn’t end there. When the couple can’t be or stay open about their feeling – the relationship starts to fall apart. It is often stressed Communication is the key to making it work. But compromising is equally important to them. Comparability is important too. But not as important. If you know me I’ve had boyfriends, a fiancée. Working on these books made me wonder is there only one person for us, what happens if you miss him or her? Does another come along or will you keep getting chances to win their heart? From what I have witnessed, there are many “will do’s” but also “My one & only”.
Each pairing is always different. That is why love / romance books are so popular and will never end. So many stories to tell. I’ve also wondered is it true the person who confessed love first is top dog in the relationship? I don’t think so. I agree it takes a massive amount of courage to be honest like that. But I truly believe that the best relationships are ones where there is equal respect, honesty, and trust. The last person who confesses first was the key to the start of the New beginning together and gets huge kudos. Sometimes a per has to confess more then once or they take turns. Due to bad timing, or miss understandings. Both parties have equal responsibilities to do to give their best to keep the relationship good. It won’t always be equal. But that’s not an excuse to not try you best. I have a lot more to add to this, but another time another day.
I am encouraged by my research and I have hope my one will come eventually to stay in my heart and life. WHEN the time is right for me. In the meantime keep an eye here on info on my upcoming works. ALSO keep coming back to my blog… it’s in a constant a work in progress as always but there for a reason. God bless you all.
♡Amy Jane ♡
Happy Mother’s day – Father’s Day – Respect and Thanks
To all you Mom’s Dad’s, soon to be and Want to be Parent’s out there! Happy Mother’s& Father’s day!!! (Now we know your secret, Your Super!)
This Weekend and Until Father’s Day is special, because of our wonderful Mothers who gave birth to us, Dad’s who have raised us: -and- or- to the Parent who was placed in your life to look after you! It is important we take the time and look back at to see all they did for you, and appreciate them, along with their effort; Even if you do not understand their actions.
The Bible (which I see as truth and my guide) calls for us as Children to respect them. Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.Ephesians 6:1 KJV Don’t stop reading because I have bible verses , It is important no matter who you are or what religion/ Faith you are to obey and respect your parents.. But it is a pleasure to appreciate and celebrate them!!!
In the old days if a child disobeyed they were taken out of the city and stoned, to death…. Eek! And they say Spanking is harsh?
The Bible can be hash, especially in the Old Testament. Thank you Lord, for The new testament and Jesus’s blood that frees us fro, the law.. (John 3:16) If you can’t respect your parents who will you respect?? I believe it is a foundation we were given, so we can know who is Boss over us and once we respect someone we can learn from them.. Do you lean anything from anyone you don’t respect??? I don’t so I doubt others will.. Not all parents are respectable, some parents are horrid to their children and I feel they should not be allowed to be parents… I’m not talking about grounding or strict rules.. I’m talking about the ones who molest, beat, and play bad mind games, with their children. No parent should abuse their child in any way, shape or form.. If you have or had a parent like that I am so sorry.. You are a blessing! But if you have good parents great parent’s no matter what age you are, You are blessed more then you may realize. Without my parents I know I would have turned out to be some one other then who I am.. I was a rebellious teen, and child. My rules my way! But When I realized how lucky I was I stared to be obedient… It is never too late to appreciate what you have! There are so many I know who have lost a mother or a father to young, and it leaves a huge hole in their hearts, and life… A “Parent” is God’s special gift to His children. We are to look at God like a Father, but if we have not had a father it can be hard to grasp… A different story for a different day..
Now parents, usually both work to give us not only a roof over our heads, and food on the table and love.. They do so much more for us. They give us phones, computers, games, Tv’s, cars etc. You’re so lucky If you have parents who can afford that stuff, or allow those things. As an adult it they don’t stop loving you or helping you. They expect more from you but their help extends sometimes to mortgages, cloths, babysitting, referrals, jobs, medical bills, and much more… Take some time and really think about what your parents, guardian, or role model has done for you. Life is far from easy, but I feel so blessed to have such wonderful parents who are not only awesome role moles but awesome people who set a standard, and raise the bar. The lead the way and helped me lean who I am and what I want to do. They pushed, and pulled, and always loved.. If you wanna be a patent or soon to be one, you should know and strive to be a good one! One who will set a good example to your children, even if your parents were not one for you. You can start anew. Make a decision who you want to be, and what example you want to set as a parent and work at it. ❤ You can do it!!! And every one will be blessed by your efforts!! It is not easy, it is not always fun to set a standard… But it is so worth it when you see people responding and following your examples.. You don’t have to be perfect, but be responsible…
God bless you Parents!!! We children are so lucky to have you! I pray, one day I too can share the joys and hardships of being a mother!
I could easily write a book on this topic but I’ll leave you with some verses..
- Proverbs 6:20 My son, keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
- Proverbs 13:24 ESV Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
- Deuteronomy 21:18 If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him,
- Proverbs 23:22 Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
- Colossians 3:20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
Exodus 21:15 ESV “Whoever strikes his father or his mother shall be put to death.
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 ESV“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear.